Process
Divorce can feel like the end of the world, but I hope by working with me, you can feel empowered moving into the next phase of your life.
The mediation process looks a lot different from the tense legal battle we frequently see in television and movies. The intention of mediation is to explore options so you and your spouse can negotiate and come to a decision you both feel good about.
The Client-Centered Mediation Process
Generally, the mediation process at Goldstein Mediation takes place over a series of 2-hour meetings. The overall time investment will vary depending on what issues you bring to negotiate.
Working with a neutral facilitator can promote open communication and positive outcomes.
The Process, Step by Step
Step 1
Finances
In the spirit of full transparency, we begin with identifying all assets and liabilities you have acquired during your marriage. By getting everything in one place, we start from a strong foundation and a shared understanding of finances.
Step 2
Budgeting
Next, we create a monthly budget for the future once you are no longer living under one roof. We examine living expenses, housing expenses, and, if applicable, any expenses associated with children. We work together to create a plan for how all of these expenses will be paid.
Step 3
Co-Parenting (if applicable)
As mandated by the State of Minnesota, we will discuss a parenting schedule, holiday schedule, and child support. I will help you work together to identify and honor your priorities in raising your children.
Step 4
Division of Assets / Liabilities and Other Considerations
Finally, we put a plan in place to separate your finances. We also discuss spousal support (alimony), tax implications, and name changes at this time.
As we work through our time together, I draft an extensive memorandum of agreement. This document is not a divorce decree, but can serve as a reference for your attorneys as they draft your divorce documents. In fact, my extensive documents often save my clients money on legal fees since they are so detailed, allowing their attorneys to work more efficiently.
Some of my clients chose not to hire an attorney and they use the materials I give them to file a joint petition, with or without minor children.
Throughout the process of working together, I help my clients stay focused on the future. We work together on the big picture goals before we discuss details. I walk with my clients through these emotional decisions, and I truly take it to heart.
My job as your mediator is to provide options. We will go through various options, including how you may divide your assets and liabilities, and different ways to view co-parenting and financial decisions. My goal is that my clients will never wake up one day regretting decisions they made because of a lack of knowledge, or feeling they were manipulated into making a decision.
Free Consultation
A free consultation is designed to help you and your spouse understand all of your options while you are considering ending your marriage.
I will introduce myself and my background, share my style and process, and answer all of your questions. I will be sure you know what to expect, how we will work together, and provide you with enough information to know if mediation is the right fit for you. You do not need to prepare anything for this first meeting except your questions.
When you leave my office, you will leave with the answers you need, as well as the paperwork I will need from you if you decide to move forward with me.
I know this can be a stressful and emotional time. My goal during every consultation is to show that you can control the process of your dissolution. I also want to empower you to make the decisions that honor what is important to you and your family.
Please get in touch to schedule your free consultation.